I speak for many when when I say “I love women”. International women’s day is, in essence, a day to appreciate the ladies in your life. However, scratching beneath the surface of the day for many radical 3rd wave feminists out there, it’s a springboard to annoying political activism and male-bashing.
In personal experience, a day that begins of paying homage to your queens quickly transcends into an irritating debate about equality and helps hurt women.
It’s hard to really argue the case well on this side of the aisle. Feminism and movements of women’s rights shower them with all the right attention but all the wrong principles. When you get loud-mouths on this side bashing all of it, it’s hard to make the case I’m standing in solidarity with woman whilst single handedly stamping the movements into the ground.
…And that’s exactly what I’m doing. I want to see women thrive but I believe the ends don’t justify the means. In western culture, women have it great so we need to dispel the myths that women have got crappy lives compared to the so-called ‘patriarchal ruling class’.
Myth number 1: The gender pay gap
The premise of gender pay inequality is absolute nonsense. We often here of women earning 77p to the mans £1; this is taking from median income.
For one, it’s been illegal to pay women less than men for the same job since the 1970’s and reinforced again in the Equality Act of 2010. Secondly, it completely excludes hours worked, jobs worked, and it doesn’t adjust for roles in certain paying sectors.
The reality is men do more dangerous jobs which are often higher paying, take less time off and work more hours than women on average – leading to the disparities in earning potential.
This gets worse when we realise the government has legitimised the ill-founded statistics by backing egalitarian programs. For the record, “equal-outcome” policies have been tried already in Sweden and it only widened the gap. Why? Because it turns out women don’t want to do some of these roles that they were being rail tossed into. Letting them make free choices caused an increased uptake in humanitarian and creative roles and swerved away from, typically higher paying, STEM roles.
Myth number 2: Abortion regulation and bodily autonomy
This gets thrown around a lot as the debate really heats up around this issue. Before I’m told, “You’re a bloke so your opinion doesn’t matter” realise I don’t care.
The truth is, moderate to extreme government limitations on your abortion rights have little to no impact on your rights to create a life for yourself, chase a career or participate in the economy.
This argument is quickly dispatched when you realise that no western country is forcing you to have kids. You can control when, where, how and who you have kids with in civil western world.
Trying to label places like the UK or the USA systemically oppressive to women is completely asinine. Try real oppression and female subordination in countries like Iran, Saudi Arabia and the Democratic republic of the Congo where forced marriages and female genital mutilation are commonplace.
Myth number 3: The patriarchy
Going to start off by saying this immediately – it doesn’t exist. The notion that men haven’t adopted any of the beliefs in women’s equality and that we are out to stamp on women’s and usurp the power is ludicrous.
Yes, there currently more men in positions of power. Does that mean there’s a conspiring against women in the powerful positions, absolutely not.
Leading political heads are women. The USA presidential primarily race was full of women. The Labour leadership race was 80% women. There are more women going into university and medical school than ever before. There are more female entrepreneurs and business owners than ever before.
Instead of implementing affirmative action policies and making it easier for them to get into job roles (which is anti-feminist in itself as it undermines their capabilities to do a job), we should be championing them to go into these fields and tackling the establishment head on.
Women are great at stuff. In a lot of cases, just as good as their male counterparts. Women also have it great in the west. They’re equal in all legal facets and have the same rights afforded to them as men.
The big question is – Why are we telling them otherwise? Instead, feminists and (very ironically) women in power, talk all the time about patriarchal oppression and having life hard because of men and the ‘system’.
This is morally wrong on so many levels. Firstly, it makes men’s lives very difficult when we are constantly vilified – and in a society where men statistically have a hard go of things, this isn’t needed. Secondly, it hurts women. Saying to women that there is a nameless, shapeless patriarchal system gearing up to take huge steaming sh*t on your life sets them up for failure.
International women’s day and feminist movements should be used as a springboard to tell young impressionable girls to use their rights earned by the brave women of the suffrage periods and go out there and make a go of it.
You can only eliminate discriminations and inequalities by finding instances of it and challenging it head on. We should be saying to women – look, you have the same rights as everybody else go out there and use it. When you’re faced with gender discrimination, take a moment and evaluate whether it is indicative of the whole country/system/company or whether frankly, you’ve met an arsehole.
If more women are going out there, proactively using there rights and challenging, then we will be able to expose those deliberately discriminating and hold them accountable. Most men will be cheering as loudly as women when people are apprehended.
Women need inspiration, not unjustified, I’ll-founded limitation. They sure aren’t getting it from radical feminist movements and grandstanding activists that use days like this as a springboard for their own agenda.